"Discovering the Real 'You" is a fun personality test to be used as an ice-breaker for the course. Of course, no personality testing is scientifically 100% accurate and complete. And no person falls into solely one classification; there are generally personality traits from several categories that apply. But here various personality types and character traits for each, will be discovered. And youth should begin to recognize that different personality types approach similar goals by different methods. Realizing and understanding that people are different and may react to situations in a manner that's different than theirs, may reduce or avoid conflict and/or hurt feelings.

In "Identifying Thinking Habits," a list of some different types of thinking habits will be presented. Youth will complete exercises that will help them understand how thinking habits affect their emotions and what they do in different real life situations. Youth will begin to identify thought patterns and habits they have been using. They will put practical applications to daily living situations, and learn how they can be handled differently. The goal of this chapter is to introduce youth to the concept that their actions do affect others, and they should start taking steps to re-think things before they act.

The concept of change is introduced here. Negative experiences and influences will be identified, exposing old attitudes, ideas and beliefs that youth can now release, overcome and replace with truth. Youth will begin to understand about the power of choice, and they will begin to replace old attitudes, ideas and beliefs with new, healthier and more productive ones. Youth will begin to learn how to keep negative situations from happening over and over again, and how to focus their need for power into a posiive direction.They will begin to learn how to deal with regrets from their past and fears about their future. And they will begin to correct themselves when they use a negative thinking habit.

By discussing specific issues that affect young men and women personally, youth should begin to develop more constructive thought processes, thereby leading to more beneficial actions. In Becoming Men of Honor and Women of Grace, youth will create a plan for their future , determine what it will take to accomplish their goals, and establish what it is that they need to avoid in order to be able to reach their goals. They should learn how to shut down some deceptions and untruths that may come against them, before those lies get a grip. Here, they will learn how to emphasize their strengths and decrease their weaknesses, by fine-tuning their value systems. And they will learn the value of accountability.